(I am hoping that my sister and Sir Steve will join us here occasionally to share stories - but for now it will be me 😉)
When we got the news about my Mom’s condition in May, I immediately sought help to deal with my grief. My Mom and I didn’t always agree on the world, but in the past 10 years (or so) she became my best friend - just the thought of losing her put me into a major depression. My therapist suggested some books for me to read on how to deal with my feelings (see below for a list of suggested reading) and amoung the concepts I was particularly concerned with her legacy, what will she leave for the world? The one thing that I know she leaves behind is - “The Journey”.
Morningstar’s journey on earth has ended, but I am sure that she has inspired many of you the way she did many others outside of her journey in blogland. Please take a moment to introduce yourself in the comments and share your most cherished memory of Morningstar, or your favourite blog post/answer that she wrote.
(If you have stumbled upon this blog and have no idea what I am referring to please navigate on over to https://wtsubbie.blogspot.com/ and check out Morningstar’s original blog.)
Suggested Reading List on Grief/Loss
- Grief is Love (Marisa Rene Lee)
- The Healing Power of Storytelling (Annie Brewster MD and Rachel Zimmerman)
- It’s Ok That You’re Not OK (Megan Devine)
- Finding Meaning (David Kessler)
Please excuse our visuals for the moment - we are still getting started/set-up.
It's so nice to meet you. I loved reading everything your mom posted. I loved her courage. She did what she chose and didn't give a fig as to what others thought. She lived HER life, whether it was doing home schooling or playing with knives, she did it with enthusiasm. Not that she didn't complain a little about the home schooling at times, LOL!
ReplyDeleteI'm PK Corey a long time spanko blogger - at least in my archives. The spanking now is nearly gone, but I have great memories of it and all the wonderful people I've met through the blogs. Now I write books about spanking, that will have to do for me.
I've prayed for her and your whole family since she shared her diagnoses. I appreciate you beginning this blog. The numbers of bloggers has dwindled as of late and I knew how much I was going to miss your mom's voice out here. I still will, but being able to hear from her family will help. Thanks for being here Dae.
Hi PK! It is very nice to meet you also. At some point I might enter into conversations about my love of spanking (wink wink) - One of the things I inherited? in my genetics from my Mom is a love for kink - Although mine is mainly done now behind closed doors.
DeleteMom talked about her regular followers on her blog fairly often. Sometimes she forgot that I was even lurking around her blog. I have heard tales (all good ones) of some of the goings on here and conversations that she had. While she was sick I know that she wanted to post - but she was so tired - and there wasn't a whole lot to say - unless you are into medical torture (pretty sure that is a thing on the internet somewhere).
And thank you so much for your prayers. Believe me when I say I am so grateful for everyone's wishes, thoughts, and especially prayers.
Hi, Dae. Thanks for setting up this blog, it is an interesting idea and I hope, a success.
ReplyDeleteI am known in blogland as Prefectdt. I run, what I would describe as, a general entertainments blog, focusing on the ouchy side of kink. With just a bit of my life thrown in now and then.
My most lasting memory of your mom is of when she found out that there was a difference between mainstream BDSMers and Spankos. Before that, I get the impression that she thought that we were just beginner BDSMers. And that is what I liked most about her blog, exploring the similarities and differences between us.
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Aha! I found your “lost” post! I have no idea how this didn’t publish as I have set everything up here to be open for anyone to comment. But I found it! And it’s so nice to meet you!
DeleteI too would have been confused about the difference regarding spanking and BDSM - I think many people I know who are BDSMers started out as Spankers. Like it was a gateway act or something ;) honestly I have only dabbled in BDSM at my Mom’s level, and what I do is very much behind closed doors and for therapeutic reasons (wink wink). I believe pretty strongly that everyone has their own kink whether they label it or not. And I’m always interested in learning about different things so I’m going to check out different blogs.
I have no idea what will come of this blog, I have hopes that it will be something good, and positive I’m open to suggestions ;)
It is not a new problem. I suspect that it may be due to this being a Blogger blog and I am linking to my WordPress blog. This happens the other way around too. I have lost count of the amount of genuine comments, that I have had to fish out of my spam box.
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Morningstar was an amazing lady and she will be greatly missed. My heart and thoughts go out to you and your family at this time. I am so glad you decided to share some of your thoughts and memories here. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThe things that struck me most about your Mom were her determination to always be true to herself, her love and devotion to her family and how she loved Christmas and made it special and magical for her family.
I haven't posted on my blog for years now, but have made such wonderful friends here I regularly read and comment.
Hugs
Roz
Hi Roz! Nice to meet you virtually!
DeleteMy Mom was certainly a force of nature - and I can't even talk about Christmas - That was her most favourite time of year and I am almost terrified of bringing out the boxes of ornaments that she had gifted to me over the years, the ones she made, the ones we made together... I might need to take a few days off to just sit with the ornaments and decorations and cry. We had all thought we would have one more Christmas...
I also used to be a blogger (I feel like it was a lifetime ago and certainly about 15 or so years since I managed my own blog) and I was a lurker on my Mom's blog for a long time. I rarely posted a reply but I would call her and talk with her about how she was doing. The idea that there would no longer be a blog was inconceivable to me. I hope that you will come by and comment here too!
Over the many years I was with morningstar I remember the pain you caused her and she always blamed herself mostly BUT I am SO very happy that since her/mine breakup you, Dae, and her worked things out and left this world happy that her " girls " and her were now one !!
ReplyDeleteHey Sir. Mom and I didn't always agree on things, or versions of reality. After watching other people grow up and have issues with their parents (and watching my stepson and his relationship with his mother) I have come to understand that (1) Parents inevitably "mess up" their kids in ways they COULD NEVER ANTICIPATE (2) Kids inevitable hurt their parents because they grow up and in doing so they exert their independence. (3) Aside from the years before you I never stopped talking to her even though I didn't agree with her life choices. (4) The only reason that I was able to have a really good relationship with my Mom was when I stopped trying to live by her rules and accept her just as she was. It was grace - I forgave her because she was just doing her best. We are all just trying to do our best.
DeleteI wasn't poking at you ( words aren't always my best, unlike your Mom ) I just wanted to say how happy I was that you both formed a bond....
DeleteMy original comment here, seems to have disappeared. Did I say something that offended or did it just not stick?
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I have no idea how your comment was lost… I certainly didn’t delete it on purpose. Mind you I am also working on mainly mobile devices and a Mac computer… I did find it though and you can see my reply. Thank you for bringing this to my attention.
DeleteLet me first express my deepest sympathy for you and your family. I am late to this party as I am currently sitting on the shores of Lake Ontario camping.
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about your Mom a lot lately as we did discuss coming and frustrations during Covid whether it be her not getting to her trailer or me worrying about getting our favourite camping spot. It breaks my heart to think she may not have returned to say good bye to her trailer and little fairy garden.
I was a blogger for a long time. I didn't start following Morningstar until maybe 5 years ago ( who knows because the last 3 years have flown by and stood still all at once). But she was the only blog I did continue to read after I left blogging.
We started out as DD and moved into D/s with elements of private BDSM like activities. Your Mom and I often discussed the differences between between us. She had many questions concerning my life as a submissive wife. We also found similarities in the fact that my husband enjoys inflicting pain ( no knives 😉). Though I would not consider myself a masochist. Lol
I don't live too far away from where your Mom lived with Steve, and often wondered if we'd ever meet or run into each other while she was visiting. Actually the hospital she was being tested in isn't far from my husband's work.
With her gone I thought my blog reading days were over. I will be interested to learn more about your journey if you decide to share.
Again my condolences. And happy to hear you and your Mom were able to have years together as friends before she had to leave 💕
willie
Hi ! I’m so glad to see you intend to keep Morningstar’s legacy… Please, please, don’t erase her blog!
ReplyDeleteI’m a French woman living in France and a teacher until I retired. I’ve been reading Morningstar’s blog for years. She sometimes wrote about some situations she could encounter in her professional life. Her love for her pupils was patent and I often marvelled at the way she found solutions. It helped me, too. She was so happy when she was going to visit you and your family, often for Chrismas.
Apart from that, she was undeniably funny and witty, it was a pleasure to read her. I saved a few of her posts, for instance the one she wrote on May 29 2011; here it is:
The ants go marching
OR
All you ever needed to know about ants - but never bothered to ask............or truthfully never cared about
I googled (thank god for google) what to do about an ant invasion.............
- Find their entry point - well after hours of searching - I still have NO idea!!
- Lay down poison ....... unless of course you have small children or pets - well no poison in my house.....
- In lieu of poison - use all purpose spray cleaners (windex is what I used yesterday - when I found that yucky swarming mass of baby ants)
- First spray the ants - then clean up their carcasses - then re-spray the area and wipe - as ants leave a scent for their friends and family to follow.
- Stay alert and do this every time you see an ant marching through the house... because as the song goes - the ants go marching one by one hurray hurray - the ants go marching two by two hurray hurray - the ants go marching three by three - well you get the idea!
- Keep your house clean - ants love a dirty house....... sheesh - I think my ants took a wrong turn somewhere cause honestly I don't know how much cleaner I can keep my house !!
- Find their ant hill outside - which I will do just as soon as it stops raining long enough to stick my nose out the door !!!! and poison the ant hill (have done that many many times - every spring I think - and they just keep rebuilding. Industrious stupid lil buggers !!!
So I have been spraying and wiping and spraying some more this morning... found one cheeky bugger climbing up my arm - he's dead trust me!! Miss Ashes - unlike her brother Squirt - sits perched on the top of the wing back chair in the living room yelping at me to get rid of the monster invasion!!! (Squirt used to eat anything that moved in the house - and stuff that didn't)
My Sunday morning news show gave me a reason to be thankful though...... next week they are discussing bed bugs.... I guess my ant invasion isn't so bad in comparison.........
Thanks to google I even found a recipe for chocolate covered ants IF I feel so inclined:
Ingredients:
Servings: 8
• 1742 large ants (if they are small, use 2,044)
• 3 cups melted chocolate
Directions:
Prep Time: 16 1/2 days
Total Time: 16 1/2 days
1. Catch ants at a picnic site and keep them in a glass jar to which you have added a teaspoon of sugar to keep them happy.
2. (Unhappy ants are liable to go sour before processing.) At home, pick up each ant with tweezers and remove entrails with a small, very sharp knife edge.
3. This will take about 400 hours.
4. If you are in a hurry, eliminate this step; you'll never know the difference.
5. Dip each ant into melted chocolate and place to drain on waxed paper.
6. If any of them are still able to crawl off the paper, let them go-- be a good sport
Chocolate anyone???
Thanks again for keeping up the good work! Hugs.
Odile ak Ordalie.